Of marriages and doubts...

Just found out recently through Friendster that Ah Ger has ROM-ed..oh wow. Happy for her. Though cheesed that I have to find out this way.

Just found out through Friendster too that Kok Meng & Shujun have ROM-ed too...great...they look really happy together...

And there's another friend. Getting ROM-ed but well..getting the jitters about it..he's the guy.
I don't know the details but I think he's not really ready for it..just that it might be a family pressure, peer pressure kinda thing.
And well, given the length of time they' ve been together, people ARE expecting him and his gf to get married eventually...

I don't know. Is he marrying cos he wants to or cos of the general expectations of others?
He was so perplexed by the whole thing...so confused and unsure...
Till he went wandering the streets alone and went drinking alone...

It's a sad thing..
To be unsure of whether the path you are taking...will eventually lead to your own happiness or not.

There was a talk show on TV....questioning the values of marriage and what it means to the young people of today.
Some say it's just a status, it's just a piece of paper. Not happy? Fine, burn the paper, chew it, swallow it. Voila, marriage no more.
Others say it's a union of souls, it's a committment to each other.
Some say it's a neccessary undertaking to give the woman a respectful title, given the conventions of society.
Others say wtf? The sanctity of marriage is falling into an abyss.

I say.
Marriage...should be entered into only when both are absolutely sure of what they want to give to each other.
It's a tangible representation of well....the committment, responsibility and oath each party sets to the other. In sickness and in health. From now till forever.
Do I sound cliche and old-fashioned? Yeah, perhaps, perhaps.

How do you know if he's the one? someone asked.
I just know. I answer.