Slow reaction

Turned out I had a delayed reaction. 

For some strange reason, after more than a week, my emotions chose to let loose last night. And let loose I did. 

I bawled. I spluttered. I bawled somemore. 

Was feeling upset about my granny. 

Sigh...

But I felt slightly better thereafter apart from the headache I had from the crying. 

18 April 2014

Her Daddy's birthday. And also the day that she tried pumpkin for the first time. More specifically butternut squash.

Strangely there was not much excitement or reaction. She was more excited the first time she tried rice cereal. Hmm...

And yes, the poor girl has got a red mark under her left eye because she scratched herself. She accidentally scratched off the scab this morning and it started bleeding again. :( see liao heart pain. 

It's been 7 days

How time flies. 

It's been a week already since Mama left us. Last Friday at this time of 11:15, Adrian and I were by her bedside just watching over her. A lifeless her. 

Strangely, a moth came by earlier on around 9-plus. It was flying around in our bedroom and then later on in our washroom. 

I asked K if Mama was maybe visiting us.....he said maybe....

The 2 Lovely Sisters

Adrian sent this wonderful photo out 3 days ago to us and some of our cousins. This was taken at his wedding 13 years ago. The two sisters, born 8 years apart, both resplendent in their sarong kebayas. 

Mama and Ipoh, both of you take care up there ok. I think you have enough kakis to start a game of mahjong already. Have fun yah......(They used to play mahjong with my mum and aunt every Saturday or Sunday for many years) 

Smells like....

And so I have created my first reed diffuser ever.

I couldn't and didn't have the chance to find a nicer bottle. Anyway, since this was an initial experiment, I improvised and bought a rose essence bottle (Star Brand). Those used to flavour cakes and jellies. The bottle was only less than $1.50.

I ordered the essential oils from Qoo10 and the reed sticks as well. For the carrier oil I used grapeseed oil. Easier to find it compared to jojoba or sweet almond oil. Just step into NTUC and you can get a 500ml bottle of grapeseed oil for $5 or $6.

Composition:
- 4 drops of citronella oil
- 4 drops of lemongrass oil
- 3 drops of geranium oil
- roughly 90 drops of grapeseed oil

I used lesser geranium as it is a thicker oil compared to lemongrass and citronella and hence more concentrated. I chose to do a 10% dilution as this was an initial test, i.e. 10 drops of essential oils to 90 drops of carrier oil. If this works well as an insect repellant, I might do a more concentrated one of 20% dilution.

Purpose:
- Citronella - purifying, clarifying, anti-depressant
- Lemon grass - purifying, cleansing, energising
- Geranium - purifying, calming, uplifting

And all three oils have insect repellant poperties. This was my main purpose in buying them actually. It was only after I bought them that I discovered that the oils had other calming and purifying properties.

I did not put in any alcohol simply because I didn't know how to get any. Stop short of buying a bottle of Absolut. But anyway, alcohol is an optional item for a reed diffuser, it just helps the essential oils bind better to the carrier oil and travel up the reed sticks in a better way. But it's not 100% neccessary to put alcohol in it.

Let's see how this turns out.

Little kids. Little rich kids.

I spent some time alone in a Starbucks cafe yesterday afternoon. I was clearing some work and blogging a little.

I was caught by surprise at the number of young kids there. There were those from secondary school and JC, evidenced by the uniforms they were in. And there were even 2 or 3 from prmary school, sitting in a corner on their own.

So rich?

When I was in primary school, even McDonald's was considered a luxury. And I had no money to hang out with friends. We only probably hung out at a shopping centre or at a Popular bookstore just walking around aimlessly and didn't have money to sit in an actual cafe and order cakes and drinks.

Till now I still find it expensive to spend $5 each day buying a cup of something from Starbucks though I know many others do it.

Times have changed. Really.

I can't imagine how it will be when Nadya grows up.

The Proceedings IV - Tuesday 15 April 2014

Adrian picked up Dad & Mum before coming by to pick me. We made our way to the Marina South Pier where we met up with Aunt and my cousins, Celine and Randall. We waited for the Singapore Casket staff to arrive and they finally arrived, slightly later than the agreed upon 11am time.

Mama’s remains, ashes and bone fragments, were wrapped up within a red cloth which was placed in a brown basket. Dad held the basket while we waited for the boat to arrive to pick us up.

Mama had long ago instructed her children that she wanted a sea burial. Maybe Dad’s pragmatism came from her. She had said that she did not want to be a burden to others, not when she was alive and also not when she was dead. She did not want her descendants to have to go to her crypt or vault at the columbarium year after year to clean up her “flat” and pay respects to her. She said she would rather be thrown into the sea and we just kept her in our hearts.

And so we arranged for a sea burial.

The boat was soon ready and we headed out onto the bobbing jetty. Mum was prone to motion sickness and had already popped anti-motion sickness pills beforehand. Still she was fidgety and clung on to me when out on the jetty. So one arm of mine was holding onto her and the other arm of mine was trying to hold Dad, who claimed he did not need any support at all as he was a fisherman and used to all the waves and bobbing. (He used to fish a lot out in the open sea.) Still, he is 72 this year. I was going to hold on to him no matter what he said or claimed.

We stepped onto the boat and were brought to an NEA-designated area a short distance off the East Coast area.

When the boat stopped, Celine led us on a short prayer and we sang “Amazing Grace” again. The guy from Singapore Casket who accompanied us told us that before we put Mama into the sea. It was customary that we open the red cloth and touch her and say our goodbyes. And so we did.

We all kept our composure this time round. Though I could see Dad’s eyes were a little red. It was a little surreal. One day Mama was in human form, intact and dressed in her sarong kebaya. The next day, she was reduced to just ashes and fragmented pieces of white powdery bones.

We tied up the cloth again and then made our way to the edge of the boat. If it weren’t for the sombre nature of the event, it would have been quite comical. Each of us was trying to balance ourselves. I was supporting Mum. Adrian was supporting Dad who was clutching onto Mama’s remains. Mum was calling out to Dad to be careful. Randall was trying to take pictures on Celine’s camera. Celine was trying to say the last verses of the prayer. And all the time the boat was still rocking away.

Dad shocked all of us when he decided to lie down on the boat floor instead of squatting. Mum had a huge shock as she thought he was almost falling overboard. She yelled and I shushed her up. Dad finally dipped Mama into the sea water and when the bag was soaked through, he let her go. I did not manage to see her sink into the depths of the waters but I trust it was a peaceful trip down. Maybe some fishes (and plankton?) accompanied her on her journey down to the seabed….

We had loose flowers with us and each of us scattered some flowers into the sea as well as we bade our final goodbyes to Mama.

We went back into the sheltered area of the boat and sat down again, chatting while we made our way back to the jetty. It was an excursion of sorts too I suppose.

We parted ways at the jetty and Adrian dropped Mum and Dad and I at Bugis. He had to go back to work. I brought Mum and Dad out for lunch and accompanied them home. I stayed there for the afternoon before making my way back in the evening to begin my second “job” as a mum….

The Proceedings III - Monday 14 April 2014

Seeing how my Dad, Adrian and I had always been the first ones to be Mama’s wake, my Aunt assigned one of my cousins to be the first one instead on Monday morning.

After getting Little Baby ready for school, I managed to sleep some more. When I woke though, a sudden overwhelming grief washed over me. I sat on the edge of the bed and cried. And cried. I tried not to dwell on it too much though. I still had to get ready to go out. Forced myself to go wash up and shower. It was 11am or so when I reached the wake.

Being a Monday, there were not many people who came by. The afternoon still passed quickly though as we chatted amongst ourselves. It was soon 5:30pm.

At 5:40pm, Father Edward Lim from the Holy Trinity Church in Tampines reached. He conducted his service and by 5:50pm he was done. We got ourselves ready. 8 of us immediate family members followed behind when staff transported Mama’s coffin downstairs to the waiting hearse. Dad, Mum, myself, Adrian, Aunt, Uncle, Celine and Randall. The rest of the relatives and friends, maybe 15 in all, took another lift and waited for us downstairs.

When Mama was brought downstairs, it started to drizzle. The hearse was blaring out “Amazing Grace”. When her coffin was being placed into the hearse Aunt and Mum started to cry. I started as well. The staff handed out umbrellas to all of us. The 8 of us positioned ourselves behind the hearse and followed it as it slowly drove out.

It was a slow march. Adrian, Dad, Mum had their hand on the hearse. I couldn’t get a space and left it at that. The drizzle had by now turned into a downpour. It was as if the sky was shedding its tears for Mama. It was all quite touching, dramatic and sad at the same time.

We marched for just a little while till we reached the junction leading out to the main road. Staff said we could stop there and regroup. Those with cars would meet us at the Mandai crematorium. Those without transport would take the bus we had chartered. Adrian’s car and K and I were the only two cars following behind the hearse as a small convoy.

It was raining heavily for the entire journey from Lavender to Mandai. Adrian later said that Mama’s sending off was so dramatic.

Father Edward was already there in the service hall waiting for us when we reached. The room was very very cold when we stepped in. It was a quaint and peaceful room though. Mama was laid in the centre of the front of the room. Father Edward led his service. I could hear sniffling in the room and tissues being used. I was tearing myself.

We were instructed to each say our final goodbyes and were each given a stalk of pink carnation to lay on her coffin. We went one by one in a single file. I told Mama to rest in peace. I said goodbye to her. I told her to take care of herself while up there in Heaven. I told her to meet up with Ipoh, Tuanku and all her other dead relatives while up there.

When I went back to my seat, I saw that Dad was crying. He was clutching her photograph (the big framed one used for the wake) to his chest and he was crying. I’d only ever seen him tear up once in my entire life. And that was a few years ago when Mama had been hospitalised and the doctors told us to be prepared for the worst. This time round, it was full out crying.

I was upset. I didn’t know how to console him except to sit next to him and hug him.

We were then told to head to the viewing room. We made our way there. I followed close behind Dad. K was right behind or beside me all the time as well.

There was a loud silence in the viewing room, despite the more than 20 of us there. Silence broken by the occasional sob, the occasional rustling of tissue paper. It felt heavy and oppressive. Dad was still holding Mama’s photo to his chest and he looked at it from time to time. His eyes were red and teary.

We waited.

5minutes later we saw in the room down below staff placing Mama’s coffin onto a platform. A minute later the platform bearing her coffin started moving slowly towards another door, beyond which we would not have sight of. This really was the final goodbye, the last we would ever see of her. 

Dad started crying again. My Aunt cried out loud “Bye Bye Mak Cim (Peranakan lingo for Mother)! Bye Bye Mama! Bye Bye Ah Chor! Rest in Peace! Bye Bye! Bye Bye! Pergi carik Ipoh dengan Tuanku! (Go find Ipoh and Tuanku. They were Mama’s deceaded siblings).”

My distant cousins, Paul and Brenda, who were my granny’s god-son and god-daughter, also shouted “Bye Bye Kue Mah!”

Most were crying at that point as the platform inched closer to the door leading to the furnace.

 

Marc looked a little bewildered. At age 11, I don’t blame him. I don't think he feels very close to his great-grandmother. He'd never seen his grandparents cry before. And I don’t believe he had ever been in a situation where most of the adults in the room were crying. I wonder if he found it overwhelming.

The coffin soon went through the second door and then the door closed.

 

That was it.

 

The end of a story 98 years in the making.

We were ushered outside to an area with benches. Adrian was by Dad’s side this time. He looked like a broken man from behind. Instead of standing tall and proud like he always did, he looked hunched over. Adrian held Dad and supported him.

 

But Dad recovered quickly and being the practical people that my parents are, he soon started trying to arrange for logistics for a relative who had no car and had to find his way home.

There was a sudden change in mood. It felt strange. In the viewing room it felt heavy and oppressive. Once out of there, and as people were walking out, the mood lifted. I could hear small talk going on and some muted laughter as people huddled around in small groups.  

Life goes on I suppose.

We thanked the relatives and went our separate ways from Mandai. K & I dropped my Aunt off and her two friends before heading home ourselves. It was still relatively early when we got home around 840pm and I finally got to spend more time with Little Baby.

The Proceedings II - Sunday 13 April 2014

It was Palm Sunday. The orbituary was also published that day.

I brought the little girl to see her great-grandmother for the final time. It was 930am when we reached. I was glad that Little Baby did not fuss and was pretty much calm. I told her that Ah Chor was sleeping and that Ah Chor would be going to a better place. I told her that Ah Chor was going home to be with the Lord and that both he and she would look after us from above. I told her to wave goodbye to Ah Chor. And I held her little hand and we patted Mama’s coffin together.

It was emotional for me. While I am disappointed that Mama did not get to interact with Little Baby the way she had interacted with her other great-grandchildren last time, I was still glad that at least the both of them had a chance to meet when Mama was still alive. Even if Mama did not register anything in her mind, at least she saw Little Baby already.

K and my inlaws brought Little Baby home around 11am. It was relatively quiet till after lunch. Many people dropped by. We already expected it.

I was very touched that Tazzee popped by even though his own dad was recovering in hospital from an unfortunate incident. I hope his dad is healing well and that he is discharged by now.

Daniel and YL came by, as did the rest of the secondary school peeps.

Dad and Mum’s friends. My Aunt’s friends. My cousin’s friends. My Dad’s relatives. My Mum’s relatives. Adrian's church friends. Mama’s youngest brother came as well. (He’s 86 by the way. Spritely and very fit. He still plays tennis twice a week.)

It was hectic in a sense. I was hopping between tables, chatting with various groups, in between clearing and cleaning tables and giving out drinks and collecting contributions. Adrian, Mei and Marc had to be away for that afternoon because they had to go for their rehearsal in church. Rehearsal for their baptism during Easter Vigil this coming Saturday evening. Adrian shared with me that he was disappointed that Mama passed on before their family’s baptism.

By the time dinner came by, I felt a little woozy from the constant talking but more so from the lack of sleep. When the crowd thinned a little, I sat on a chair and "stoned".

I was worried for Mum and Dad too. Mum had caught a cold and fallen sick on the last two days of her trip to Korea. She was on medication and looked drawn and pale. She was napping on the sofa in the room whenever she could. And Dad had been running around since Friday night. He’s getting old too and I was worried that he would be very tired. I kept nagging at him to sit down and rest whenever he had the chance to.

After tabulating the contributions and clearing up the room, I managed to get home slightly earlier around 11pm. K was also very tired, he had been looking after Little Baby on his own for two whole days.

It was a busy day and I did not have time to dwell much on Mama.

The Proceedings I - Saturday 12 April 2014

Dad, Adrian and Aunt were at the Singapore Casket on Saturday morning handling all the administrative proceedings. From choosing the colour of the coffin to choosing the type of floral arrangements to the type of backdrop to use to the type of catering and snacks and drinks to have, they settled all of that.

I was in charge of the orbituary and went home to do it up and prepare her photo for publishing. It was a rush. In between taking care of Nadya and trying to shower myself, I tried to settle Mama’s orbituary.

By the time I settled things and reached the Singapore Casket premises, it was after lunch around 2pm.

The room had already been set up. The floral stands were there, the candles were there, Jesus and a large gold cross adorned the backdrop, and her coffin was there, right amongst the flowers.

Her coffin was white. It looked pure. The flowers were carnations. White carnations interspersed with pink ones for contrast and some colour. The candles were white as well. I thought the staff did a good job. The set-up looked quite good, pure and pristine.

She looked different however. Strange actually. Her hair was slicked back and kept in place with gel. That was not how she styled her hair when she was still mobile last time. She had on light make-up and a somewhat reddish shade of lipstick. I’d never ever seen her wear lipstick in all my 34 years of existence. We all agreed that the lipstick was somewhat too red and glossy and possibly garish. We requested for it to be toned down. The staff did a good job of toning the colour down to a more natural shade of coral pink. I felt it was still a little too glossy though but did not say anything.

She was dressed in her lavender pink kebaya top with diamante kerosang to hold it in place. Her sarong was brown with purple, white and blue accents. And she was wearing her blue Scholl sandals. Her hands were clasped together above her tummy and her rosary was strung between her fingers. She had her dentures put in and looked at peace.

By then, Dad and Aunt had notified all relatives. They started arriving in trickles from mid-afternoon onwards. In ones or twos or small goups of three or four. More swung by in the evening and at night.

We were kept busy with the relatives and trying to arrange for a sea burial (her wishes which she stated  a long time ago), trying to get a pastor down for a service prayer, trying to proof read and finalise the orbituary advertisement, trying to confirm the sea burial boat charter and timing and trying to confirm the catering arrangements for the next few days.

I was in charge of managing the contributions from visitors to the wake as well. My cousin and I took turns for this.

People paid their respects and mostly, time was spent chatting to relatives and friends. It was some sort of gathering and a time for catching up, especially for relatives whom we have not seen for a long long time.

Amongst the mundane chatter was a highlight that brought me much smiles. TH and Diana popped by and they shared with me that they were engaged already. I saw her beautiful ring. But apparently she was not too happy with the way TH did his proposal. Too pragmatic. Too practical. I think the older he gets the more he loses touch of his romantic side. So typical of him. Anyway, I was very happy for them. I think they make a very good couple.

Mum had just touched down from Korea that night at 1015pm. When she texted Dad to say that she had landed, Dad immediately called her and broke the news.

It was 1130pm by the time I got home that night. I missed the little girl a lot but didn’t get a chance to see her till the next morning.

The Day She Left

The first time we were told to be prepared for the worst was back in June 2009. I still remember that night. I was in Sydney on a business trip. I was not feeling well and K was having a bad time as well back in Singapore. I just had a warm shower and was resting in the hotel room when my Dad called me. He sounded upset and worried and his voice broke several times. He said that Mama was in a bad shape in hospital and the doctor told us to be prepared. I was upset. I was overseas and didn’t know whether to rush back to Singapore or not. I prayed a lot that night. Thankfully, Mama pulled through.

Since that night, she had been in hospital on and off. Sometimes up to 3 or 4 times a year. There were many occasions when the doctors told us to be prepared. And there were many other occasions when the nursing home called my Dad to tell him that her oxygen levels seemed low or that she seemed to be not doing so well. In the past year, this happened even more frequently.

But each time, she ended up being okay.

She was more or less lucid and responsive up till the beginning of 2013. February or March 2013 was when she lost it completely. She could not recognise people anymore, not even my Dad or Aunt. She also stopped talking to us. She did not acknowledge us anymore and when we spoke to her, all she did was stare back at us. We did not even know if she registered anything in her brain or not. On occasions when she spoke, it was gibberish and mainly in Malay and mainly pertaining to her own dead parents. Two weeks ago, she had called for her mother to come and get her.

She went for her geriatric check-up on Wednesday 9 April 2014. The doctor told my Dad and Aunt that it would be better to ward her instead as she had low oxygen, low blood pressure and high sodium and urea content in her blood. So ward her we did.

On Thursday and even Friday afternoon, both my Dad and Aunt updated us that she seemed to be stabilising. She was fed a cocktail of drugs. More chemicals were pumped through her body through an IV drip. According to my Aunt, on Friday afternoon, when a nurse was administering something to her or adjusting a tube on her, she was still strong and feisty enough to resist and even gave the nurse a good pinch. It was not a simple pinch, it was a pinch coupled with a twist.

I had actually thought to myself that she would not be going this time round. I somehow had a feeling that she would be pulling through and would be discharged in a few days’ time.

But I was wrong. Very wrong.

At 9:45pm on Friday night, she had a seizure and her heart stopped. By 9:50pm, the nurses had called my Aunt and Dad to tell them she was in a critical state and to get immediate family members down to the hospital. By 9:55pm, my Dad had informed me and my brother. By 10:30pm, I was there at the hospital by her bedside. My Aunt was there already. Dad and Adrian arrived 5minutes later.

But it was too late. She was already long gone. The nurses and doctor had tried to resuscitate her since 9:45pm. The doctor told us that they would not be trying anymore and would put it in the records that the official time of death was 10:30pm.

When I saw her, she was still hooked up to the machines, the ventilator and the heart rate monitor. She was on artificial sustenance and her chest was still heaving up and down due to air being pumped into her lungs. She looked like she was sleeping and still breathing normally. The only thing was that her eyes were open and she looked pale.

I was tearing, Adrian was tearing. Dad and Aunt kept their composure.

I patted her silver hair. I spoke to her. I told her I loved her. I told her that she was going home to the Lord and may she rest in peace. I told her that she could now meet her two sisters and her brother and also her parents. I touched her hands. They were so so cold. Her fingers were rigid. It was less than an hour since she had gone and they had hardened already. I did not know rigor mortis sets in so fast. I touched her right cheek and her skin felt so soft. But she was cold there too. She was not stiff there yet but her face was cold and frigid. Maybe it was the aircon in the hospital. I don’t know. Maybe her warm soul had already left her body.

We waited for my other cousins to arrive and see her before the doctor removed her pacemaker. Her wishes were for her to be cremated and the pacemaker had to be taken out in case it exploded in the furnace.

It was a long wait at the hospital before all the administrative proceedings were done and before all the equipment were unhooked from her and removed from her bedside. The death certificate was issued. By then, at 1:00am, the rest had left. Only Dad, Adrian and I accompanied her in a room called the “Last Office” while we waited for the Singapore Casket people to come pick her up.

When the Singapore Casket staff arrived, Mama was wrapped up in a white cloth and placed in a cold, hard and grey metal box. It felt cold and clinical and detached. She was wheeled downstairs and we were escorted by the hospital staff through a long maze of corridors and service alleyways, following right behind her. You would not see these long corridors if you were a visitor to the hospital. These were all hidden from public view and only staff knew they existed.

When we reached the holding room next to the mortuary downstairs, she was placed on a metal table and was still covered by the white cloth. Her feet were showing though. They had been tied together with white string. Her skin looked waxy. The hospital staff asked us to verify that it was her before she could be taken away by the Singapore Casket staff. Adrian did the verification. She was then placed in the Singapore Casket van and taken away.

It felt surreal. It was 2:10am. In the dead of night, the three of us walked silently back to Adrian’s car. I decided to go back to my Dad’s place and spend the night there.

Adrian dropped us off and Dad and I spent the next 45minutes preparing her kebaya and sarong and shoes. For her to wear in her coffin.

It was 3:30am by the time I went to bed. I had been awake for 21 or 22 hours by then. I was exhausted and slept. For 3 hours.

 Dad and I woke at 6-plus. He could not sleep anymore and I somehow woke up as well even though I was still feeling quite tired. Adrian picked us up at 7:30am and we went to her nursing home to collect her belongings and clear out her cupboard.

We also wanted to collect her dentures, her spectacles and her rosary to be placed together with her in her coffin.

Dad and I broke the news to the staff nurse there. One of Mama’s neighbours kept asking me if “Auntie” was coming back and when. The staff nurse signalled to me from afar to keep the news from the rest of the old ladies. I told them that Mama was still in hospital seeing the doctor. They nodded to themselves and muttered “ok”. I think some of them knew deep down that she was already gone.

Thank you

Thank you little teddy for always being there with Mama. You gave her your warmth and comfort when she was sleeping. You accompanied her when she was awake. You were her partner in crime when she fought with the nursing home carers. You were steadfast and loyal to the end. Thank you...she's gone now and we're letting you go now too....

RIP

Mama, may you rest in peace. You are with the good Lord now. I love you and I hope you get all your favourite food up there in Heaven. 

Craft time :)

Feeling excited! :) 

The essential oils and reed diffuser sticks I ordered have arrived. I waited only 3 days! Gonna start making my own essential oil diffuser! 

Geranium, citronella and lemongrass. Will be using grapeseed oil as the carrier oil. Got a bottle from NTUC for a couple of dollars. Got the glass bottle holder already as well. 

Now it's just mixing the right proportions of essential oil to carrier oil. Did not manage to get alcohol to mix in as well. Hopefully it doesn't undermine the quality of the concoction I will be making. 

Trying to do it both for fragrance and as an insect/mosquito repellant. :))) 

Can't wait for tmr to arrive so I can experiment and create my DIY diffuser! With my own blend of oils!

Granny

Gran seems to have stabilised a little. But the sodium and urea levels in her blood stream are still high. Dermatologist said there likely were parasites on her skin, which explains her constant scratching. Her BP is better than yesterday but still on the low side. Oxygen levels are back to normal but that is because she is hooked up to a constant supply of oxygen. 

She's still drowsy 95% of the time. Just found out from Dad who said the doctor said that it was because of the anti-depressant medication that she is taking.

Doc is looking to stop some of the medication she takes on a daily basis. Apparently, she's so old that the medication won't work on her anymore. 

Dad and Aunt M have also given the hospital the instruction that if anything were to happen to Gran, no CPR need be administered to her. Just let her be. Her bones are too brittle now and her chest and ribs will definitely crack if CPR were administered. And if she survived any CPR, she would suffer even more thereafter because of her cracked bones, which won't be able to heal much because of her advanced age. 

Stay strong Granny. I love you. I have not told you this before and but I will tell you now. 

I'm sorry too that I was a brat when I was a young girl and you were taking care of me. 

Stay strong ok....I'll bring Nadya to see you when you get better.,,,

*wails*

I've never had a paper cut that drew so much blood. :(  happened just this afternoon. 

Cough cough go away

I have been naughty. I admit. 

I allowed myself a small indulgence yesterday and got myself a cup of honey green tea. Cold. No pearls though. 

And by night time, my cough which was already tapering off started rearing its head again. :( 

Gah. 

5 years and counting...

Yesterday was the 5th anniversary of K and I being together. How time flies. Within these 5 years, we studied French together, he went overseas for a year, we got married, moved in together and had a child.

So fast, so much. There's been many highs, there's been some lows and as many if not more in betweens. 

Thank you for being my pillar baby. Love you! Here's to many many more years ahead! :) 

Granny

Gran is warded again. Dehydration, low oxygen, low BP, high sodium and uric acid in blood. 

Really hope she stabilizes soon. 

Kpopping again

Was listening to kpop again yesterday at work. And made some observations about the cookie-cutter kpop bands. It's the same across boy or girl Korean bands. 

1. They all dance. Some are naturals and I believe others are able to do so due to rigorous training. They all have synchronized steps. 

2. There's always a leader of the group. 

3. There's always one or two members who have their hair dyed a bold colour. Be it gold or blonde or platinum or silver or....

4. There's always a member who's main job is to rap.

5. There's almost always a member who grew up in a western country. This member would usually be the one who taps in English as well.

6. There's always a member who's supposed to be the cutie pie of the group.

7. For girl bands, for counter balance to the cutie pie, there's always one member who would be portrayed as a tomboy or one with a more aggressive attitude

8. They always have an act-cute song, a ballad, a rapping song and a more angsty song in their repertoire.