I went to the doc yesterday evening and was diagnosed with having acne rash on my left cheek. :(
As if a rash isn't bad enough. It has to be acne rash. Sigh.
And the doc said he couldn't really do much about it except to give me some cream to stop the itchiness if there's any.
*wails* My face!!!!!! Fugly lah!
And I have an international conference next week! :(
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Wednesday, March 09, 2011
Speaking of helping out at weddings. It's interesting how you know a person's work attitude from the way that person is during the course of helping out (or should I say not helping out).
My cousin had 6 jiemeis for her wedding. One of them's a distant relative aged 16. If she doesn't pull her weight on the actual day and doesn't really help much, I can understand. She's only 16 and doesn't really know what goes on at weddings anyway. She wasn't around much of the time and when she was around, she didn't do much.
But there was this one other jiemei. Who wasn't very responsible and had zero initiative. Let's call her W. Firstly, she came 30minutes late. And then she sat and chatted to others during the morning activities. While the rest of the jiemeis were helping out with preparations, and helping out with whatever things needed to be done, she say there chatting. Zero initiative. Zero proactiveness.
At night, she was at the reception. I'd say 40% of the time she was somewhere else except at the reception table. Her partner kept asking me where she was. I saw her chatting with another friend. Sigh. If I had her as a colleague, I'd curse everyday.
My cousin had 6 jiemeis for her wedding. One of them's a distant relative aged 16. If she doesn't pull her weight on the actual day and doesn't really help much, I can understand. She's only 16 and doesn't really know what goes on at weddings anyway. She wasn't around much of the time and when she was around, she didn't do much.
But there was this one other jiemei. Who wasn't very responsible and had zero initiative. Let's call her W. Firstly, she came 30minutes late. And then she sat and chatted to others during the morning activities. While the rest of the jiemeis were helping out with preparations, and helping out with whatever things needed to be done, she say there chatting. Zero initiative. Zero proactiveness.
At night, she was at the reception. I'd say 40% of the time she was somewhere else except at the reception table. Her partner kept asking me where she was. I saw her chatting with another friend. Sigh. If I had her as a colleague, I'd curse everyday.
Weddings
I helped out in my cousin's wedding last Saturday. It's my 10th time helping out at a wedding and it's the only one where I'm the main coordinator for both day & night activities.
With each wedding I learn abit more and with this one, I learnt the most. Partly because I was involved right from the start. She asked me how should she start her planning process and I was there to discuss things with her and give her my two cents' worth. I drew up a list of things for her to think through and consider haha. But the smart-aleck in me scribbled it on 3 pages of paper and then passed it all to her. Now I don't have a copy of it. Bleah.
She did up her draft schedule and I was the one of the first few to see it, apart from herself, her parents and her husband. Pored over it and gave her my questions and more pointers lol.
A female colleague told me the other day. "Oh no, I've already been a bridesmaid and jiemei twice. I can only do it one more time, else I'll not be able to get married in the future!!"
Lol, and this came from a girl 5 years younger than I. I didn't know people still believed in these things. I told her I have another wedding to help out in at the end of the year, and that would be my 11th time. Her jaw dropped.
Ah weddings and marriages. Maybe I should quit my job and join a wedding planning agency. I could learn much more although my weekends would be burnt....
With each wedding I learn abit more and with this one, I learnt the most. Partly because I was involved right from the start. She asked me how should she start her planning process and I was there to discuss things with her and give her my two cents' worth. I drew up a list of things for her to think through and consider haha. But the smart-aleck in me scribbled it on 3 pages of paper and then passed it all to her. Now I don't have a copy of it. Bleah.
She did up her draft schedule and I was the one of the first few to see it, apart from herself, her parents and her husband. Pored over it and gave her my questions and more pointers lol.
A female colleague told me the other day. "Oh no, I've already been a bridesmaid and jiemei twice. I can only do it one more time, else I'll not be able to get married in the future!!"
Lol, and this came from a girl 5 years younger than I. I didn't know people still believed in these things. I told her I have another wedding to help out in at the end of the year, and that would be my 11th time. Her jaw dropped.
Ah weddings and marriages. Maybe I should quit my job and join a wedding planning agency. I could learn much more although my weekends would be burnt....
Dad
I'm secretly happy. My dad has found a new hobby.
Although it hasn't entirely taken over his old hobby (of watching Korean programmes and MTVs on youtube the whole day) yet but at least it's taking his mind of his old hobby a little. :)
An what is his new hobby? Reading comics!! Hahahaa.....
My dad used to love reading comics. English ones of course. I used to have stacks and stacks of Asterix and Leonardo and Archie comic books at home. Then one fine day my Mum cleared everything away...
My dad's recently been going to Tampines Regional Library to borrow Asterix comic books. :) I'd come home from work to see him with a book in front of him. Good. Better than seeing him in front of the computer watching Girls Generation prancing around in short skirts.
Although it hasn't entirely taken over his old hobby (of watching Korean programmes and MTVs on youtube the whole day) yet but at least it's taking his mind of his old hobby a little. :)
An what is his new hobby? Reading comics!! Hahahaa.....
My dad used to love reading comics. English ones of course. I used to have stacks and stacks of Asterix and Leonardo and Archie comic books at home. Then one fine day my Mum cleared everything away...
My dad's recently been going to Tampines Regional Library to borrow Asterix comic books. :) I'd come home from work to see him with a book in front of him. Good. Better than seeing him in front of the computer watching Girls Generation prancing around in short skirts.
Tuesday, March 08, 2011
:(
Anger takes so much energy out of a person.
I was fuming this afternoon. And it just zapped so much out of me that now at 6pm, I feel very tired. Sigh.
And in times like these, I feel K's absence even more. :(
Friday, March 04, 2011
Sweet Tweets
Tried making dessert today. :)
A very simple dessert of boiled dried apricots in a sweet broth made from honey and sweetened winter melon slices.
Preparation time = 2minutes
Boiling = about 10minutes
It took me less than 15minutes to make it.
I liked it, though the apricots could have been boiled longer so that they were softer. The soup had a nice sweet soothing taste to it. My Dad hated the dessert though and said it tasted very strange lol...My Mum sort of liked it haha...but didn't dare take too much because she's borderline diabetic. :)
A very simple dessert of boiled dried apricots in a sweet broth made from honey and sweetened winter melon slices.
Preparation time = 2minutes
Boiling = about 10minutes
It took me less than 15minutes to make it.
I liked it, though the apricots could have been boiled longer so that they were softer. The soup had a nice sweet soothing taste to it. My Dad hated the dessert though and said it tasted very strange lol...My Mum sort of liked it haha...but didn't dare take too much because she's borderline diabetic. :)
Thursday, March 03, 2011
*scowl*
Someone just made a snide comment about why I was so kan cheong about a particular work issue, without realizing I was there, on the other side of the partition. He then saw me and kept at it.
“Aiyah, at the most I do for you lah!”, he said. I told him it’s not about the “doing for me”. It’s about keeping to timelines and not scrambling to complete things last minute. When you can keep to timelines, you don’t need to scramble last minute right? You can help me out by keeping to timelines lor. He gave me a mock shocked and flustered expression.
Wah lan.
You’re not the one trying to coordinate things with people and trying to meet a timeline to present things to the bosses. So don’t make such comments and try to turn it into a joke.
Gan du lan.
“Aiyah, at the most I do for you lah!”, he said. I told him it’s not about the “doing for me”. It’s about keeping to timelines and not scrambling to complete things last minute. When you can keep to timelines, you don’t need to scramble last minute right? You can help me out by keeping to timelines lor. He gave me a mock shocked and flustered expression.
Wah lan.
You’re not the one trying to coordinate things with people and trying to meet a timeline to present things to the bosses. So don’t make such comments and try to turn it into a joke.
Gan du lan.
Wednesday, March 02, 2011
Uhhhh....
The trending is as such.
Feb 08, Feb 09, Feb 10, Feb 11
46.3, 45.4, 47.1, 48.8
Shit.
This is what 6 months of eating-heartily-and-not-bothering-what-goes-into-your-stomach and what 3 months of slacking-and-not-running does to your body.
Body fat percentage has gone up 3 percentage points compared to last year.
Shit.
I dread to see what my cholesterol levels are. They should be sending over the full report to me within the next 3 to 4 weeks.
*crosses fingers*
Feb 08, Feb 09, Feb 10, Feb 11
46.3, 45.4, 47.1, 48.8
Shit.
This is what 6 months of eating-heartily-and-not-bothering-what-goes-into-your-stomach and what 3 months of slacking-and-not-running does to your body.
Body fat percentage has gone up 3 percentage points compared to last year.
Shit.
I dread to see what my cholesterol levels are. They should be sending over the full report to me within the next 3 to 4 weeks.
*crosses fingers*
Status Update
Remember one of my terrarium jars was almost destroyed by my mum when I went away for a month in December?
I'm glad to say that after 2 months of restorative work and lots of tender loving care, that jar is almost back to 100% its original state!
I removed the original plants from the jar and transplanted them into another pot. They are thriving happily now and are much less discoloured compared to mid January. They initially had dark brown stems after swimming in muddy murky water for a few weeks.
I put new shoots into the jar and they have since managed to pull through and are getting stronger already! I put in 1 stalk of green fittonia and 1 stalk of red fittonia. My red fittonias are very hardy and can survive even under harsh conditions. So the red stalk was generally doing fine.
The green stalk however was in a precarious condition for the first 1.5 months. It wasn't dying, nor was it looking strong. It just looked weak and withered. It's leaves were limp. I switched the jar around hoping to catch the right amount of sunlight and voila, one fine day about two weeks ago I found the right spot!
I came home to see the green stalk looking much much better than before. And now that green stalk is not standing straight and strong and tall. :)
May both red & green stalks grow new shoots and leaves and then my terrarium will be fully restored! :) Whee!
I'm glad to say that after 2 months of restorative work and lots of tender loving care, that jar is almost back to 100% its original state!
I removed the original plants from the jar and transplanted them into another pot. They are thriving happily now and are much less discoloured compared to mid January. They initially had dark brown stems after swimming in muddy murky water for a few weeks.
I put new shoots into the jar and they have since managed to pull through and are getting stronger already! I put in 1 stalk of green fittonia and 1 stalk of red fittonia. My red fittonias are very hardy and can survive even under harsh conditions. So the red stalk was generally doing fine.
The green stalk however was in a precarious condition for the first 1.5 months. It wasn't dying, nor was it looking strong. It just looked weak and withered. It's leaves were limp. I switched the jar around hoping to catch the right amount of sunlight and voila, one fine day about two weeks ago I found the right spot!
I came home to see the green stalk looking much much better than before. And now that green stalk is not standing straight and strong and tall. :)
May both red & green stalks grow new shoots and leaves and then my terrarium will be fully restored! :) Whee!
Mr Fisherman, here I come!
12 - 21 March. San Francisco.
Fishermen's Wharf! Union Square! Shopping! And some catching up with friends whom I've not seen in awhile.
Let's see, a steak dinner followed by a short bout of shopping has been arranged on 12 March evening. 13 March evening's dinner with another party has not been confirmed yet. 14 March may have a sponsored reception. 15 March there is a sponsored dinner. 16 March another sponsored dinner. 17 March nothing planned as yet. And 18 March would be my flight home at 1pm.
The weather will be cold though still manageable at a range of 9-17C.
May this meeting be a fruitful one too! I've taken on an extra role which is to assist my boss in the tracking of some issues in the Government Advisory Committee. An ultra boring role but perhaps it might help me understand some of the politics and sensitivities that goes on in the discussions these government officials have.
After this trip, the next one will only be in October or November this year. And that meeting is likely to be in the African region. Hmmmm....I hope it's a safe place that they're going to. I don't want to be caught in another situation where I might not get to go because of some dumb terrorist threatening to bomb my meeting venue. (Read: I did not get to go to Nairobi in March 2010 because some Somalian people gave out such a threat)
Fishermen's Wharf! Union Square! Shopping! And some catching up with friends whom I've not seen in awhile.
Let's see, a steak dinner followed by a short bout of shopping has been arranged on 12 March evening. 13 March evening's dinner with another party has not been confirmed yet. 14 March may have a sponsored reception. 15 March there is a sponsored dinner. 16 March another sponsored dinner. 17 March nothing planned as yet. And 18 March would be my flight home at 1pm.
The weather will be cold though still manageable at a range of 9-17C.
May this meeting be a fruitful one too! I've taken on an extra role which is to assist my boss in the tracking of some issues in the Government Advisory Committee. An ultra boring role but perhaps it might help me understand some of the politics and sensitivities that goes on in the discussions these government officials have.
After this trip, the next one will only be in October or November this year. And that meeting is likely to be in the African region. Hmmmm....I hope it's a safe place that they're going to. I don't want to be caught in another situation where I might not get to go because of some dumb terrorist threatening to bomb my meeting venue. (Read: I did not get to go to Nairobi in March 2010 because some Somalian people gave out such a threat)
Of bumps and sebum
Went for my facial yesterday. Finally managed to find a chance to go and it was high high high high time that I went. If I had missed yesterday's session, I think I'd have felt horrendously ugly haha.
Because I'd not gone for at least 3 months, my face was in a horrid shape. And so the beautician poked, squeezed and poked somemore at my pores.
Ouch.
But she also gave me a very very SHIOK facial and eye massage! I fell asleep in the midst of the eye massage haha...:)
Because I'd not gone for at least 3 months, my face was in a horrid shape. And so the beautician poked, squeezed and poked somemore at my pores.
Ouch.
But she also gave me a very very SHIOK facial and eye massage! I fell asleep in the midst of the eye massage haha...:)
Tuesday, March 01, 2011
Mad Busy
For the next few months at least.
Sometimes I don't know which work item to tackle first. When they are all of the same urgency haha.
Damn it! I need to get more sleep too...:)
Sometimes I don't know which work item to tackle first. When they are all of the same urgency haha.
Damn it! I need to get more sleep too...:)
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Hong Kong!
This is one of my shortest trip worktrip ever I think. But on my first night, I've already spent SGD$230. Haha...so what did I buy?
SKII and Biotherm and My Beautiful Diary products. There are tons of cosmetics shops here and all of them are selling products at cheaper prices compared to Singapore. There are 2 or 3 major chain stores like Bonjour, Colour Mix and SaSa. Why doesn't Singapore have alot of these stores ah? Hmm...
Anyway, I arrived at the hotel in Hong Kong island at 330pm, literally just dumped my bags and went for a Yum Cha session with some of my friends here. Went back to my hotel after that, grabbed my jacket and then headed across to Mongkok at the Kowloon side for shopping followed by dinner.
Came back exhausted but uber happy with the nice wonton mee I had and with my purchases haha. Took a quick shower and called K (who was enjoying himself with his friends) and then voila here, I am blogging little.
Am gonna do some work now before sleeping. I've an early morning meeting/discussion with my boss too....Jiayou to me!
SKII and Biotherm and My Beautiful Diary products. There are tons of cosmetics shops here and all of them are selling products at cheaper prices compared to Singapore. There are 2 or 3 major chain stores like Bonjour, Colour Mix and SaSa. Why doesn't Singapore have alot of these stores ah? Hmm...
Anyway, I arrived at the hotel in Hong Kong island at 330pm, literally just dumped my bags and went for a Yum Cha session with some of my friends here. Went back to my hotel after that, grabbed my jacket and then headed across to Mongkok at the Kowloon side for shopping followed by dinner.
Came back exhausted but uber happy with the nice wonton mee I had and with my purchases haha. Took a quick shower and called K (who was enjoying himself with his friends) and then voila here, I am blogging little.
Am gonna do some work now before sleeping. I've an early morning meeting/discussion with my boss too....Jiayou to me!
Thursday, February 17, 2011
sigh
I forsee busy times ahead.
- Business trip end this week
- Cousin getting married in early March and I am her main coordinator (I'm a little nervous about this actually)
- Board meeting in the second week of March
- Another week-long business trip in March as well
- Big project to be launched in June
- International event to be hosted in June for 1500 - 1700 pax
- Business trip end this week
- Cousin getting married in early March and I am her main coordinator (I'm a little nervous about this actually)
- Board meeting in the second week of March
- Another week-long business trip in March as well
- Big project to be launched in June
- International event to be hosted in June for 1500 - 1700 pax
Cereal Mushrooms!
I tried cooking "Cereal Mushrooms" on Monday. It's essentially a dish that is the same as cereal prawns, except that the prawns are now substituted by mushrooms.
I first had this dish in a vegetarian restaurant, Naive, in Katong. It contained big pieces of monkey head mushroom fried together with cereal. For my dish, I used buna shimeiji mushrooms instead. I couldn't find other mushrooms which I felt were suitable haha.
The cereal was nice after the initial frying. I didn't put in curry leaves and fresh chilli because I was lazy to buy them haha. Also, there's no point buying a whole packet when I am just cooking for myself right? But after I mixed the mushrooms in, the cereal turned out a little clumpy in the end. I suspect it was because the mushrooms gave out water and made the dish wetter than it should have been.
Still edible but presentation was a failure haha.
Nevermind, I will try again! Maybe this time with prawns instead haha.
I first had this dish in a vegetarian restaurant, Naive, in Katong. It contained big pieces of monkey head mushroom fried together with cereal. For my dish, I used buna shimeiji mushrooms instead. I couldn't find other mushrooms which I felt were suitable haha.
The cereal was nice after the initial frying. I didn't put in curry leaves and fresh chilli because I was lazy to buy them haha. Also, there's no point buying a whole packet when I am just cooking for myself right? But after I mixed the mushrooms in, the cereal turned out a little clumpy in the end. I suspect it was because the mushrooms gave out water and made the dish wetter than it should have been.
Still edible but presentation was a failure haha.
Nevermind, I will try again! Maybe this time with prawns instead haha.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Du Shen
I had a few opportunities to gamble during CNY.
Hmm ...my overall P&L statement is not too exciting though.
- Won $2.50 at mahjong on the 3rd day of CNY(played a $0.50 and $1.00 game)
- Broke even after 2-over hours of playing blackjack. (absolutely no ROI on my time and effort leh!!!)
- Won $0.80 at mahjong on the 11th day of CNY (played a $0.20 and $0.40 game)
Won $3.30 overall.
OMG.
Lol.....It’s not even enough to buy me a plate of chicken rice at Suntec’s foodcourt!!!
Hmm ...my overall P&L statement is not too exciting though.
- Won $2.50 at mahjong on the 3rd day of CNY(played a $0.50 and $1.00 game)
- Broke even after 2-over hours of playing blackjack. (absolutely no ROI on my time and effort leh!!!)
- Won $0.80 at mahjong on the 11th day of CNY (played a $0.20 and $0.40 game)
Won $3.30 overall.
OMG.
Lol.....It’s not even enough to buy me a plate of chicken rice at Suntec’s foodcourt!!!
Black Swan
I watched Black Swan last Friday at Tampines Mall. I was alone and it had been a long day. I was feeling a little down at work and had hoped that the movie would bring me some welcome respite from the humdrum of the working week.
I had originally wanted to watch The King’s Speech but it wasn’t showing at Tampines and so…I ended up with the other critically-acclaimed Best Picture nominee Black Swan.
Bad choice for a Friday night.
I don’t mean to slight the show. It was good in a way, very different. And Natalie Portman was brilliant in the show.
But it was too disturbing. Creepy at times. Dark and sinister. Shocking at times too, much like how a horror show would freak you out at times with things suddenly popping out or a loud clang of music suddenly bursting in your eardrums.
I had already had a tense day and watching the show made me even more tense thereafter. I’ve never screamed in a theatre before, but that night, I actually uttered a small cry during one of the shocking moments. Good thing was, everyone was equally shocked and I also heard some shocked cries from other parts of the theatre as well. Many a time during the show I found myself holding my breath.
I walked home after the movie. With heavy feet, a fast-beating heart and very tense shoulders.
I can now understand why it was nominated for Best Picture. Black Swan builds up its suspense slowly, without you even realizing it. You feel as if you’re going insane in the same way the main character’s mind distorts reality and fucks itself up. Sexual nuances are not pared down, hence the M18 rating. The attention to details are note-worthy and kudos to Natalie Portman too for having endured many long sessions dancing and acting out her ballet sequences.
I had originally wanted to watch The King’s Speech but it wasn’t showing at Tampines and so…I ended up with the other critically-acclaimed Best Picture nominee Black Swan.
Bad choice for a Friday night.
I don’t mean to slight the show. It was good in a way, very different. And Natalie Portman was brilliant in the show.
But it was too disturbing. Creepy at times. Dark and sinister. Shocking at times too, much like how a horror show would freak you out at times with things suddenly popping out or a loud clang of music suddenly bursting in your eardrums.
I had already had a tense day and watching the show made me even more tense thereafter. I’ve never screamed in a theatre before, but that night, I actually uttered a small cry during one of the shocking moments. Good thing was, everyone was equally shocked and I also heard some shocked cries from other parts of the theatre as well. Many a time during the show I found myself holding my breath.
I walked home after the movie. With heavy feet, a fast-beating heart and very tense shoulders.
I can now understand why it was nominated for Best Picture. Black Swan builds up its suspense slowly, without you even realizing it. You feel as if you’re going insane in the same way the main character’s mind distorts reality and fucks itself up. Sexual nuances are not pared down, hence the M18 rating. The attention to details are note-worthy and kudos to Natalie Portman too for having endured many long sessions dancing and acting out her ballet sequences.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
run, ran, running
I went for a run last night. Hmm. Maybe it turned out to be only a brisk walk session. Considering how slowly I moved my leaden legs.
I heaved and huffed and puffed. And in the end, I only ran (or brisk-walked?) 2km.
A 2.5 month hiatus was the culprit.
No this cannot be!!! I must persevere.
More updates on this soon.
Wo yao jiayou!!!
I heaved and huffed and puffed. And in the end, I only ran (or brisk-walked?) 2km.
A 2.5 month hiatus was the culprit.
No this cannot be!!! I must persevere.
More updates on this soon.
Wo yao jiayou!!!
Wednesday, February 09, 2011
*burp*
I am organising a luncheon tomorrow for my local registrars. It will be a day of hello-s and hi-s and how-is-business-going-s? I hope I have the energy to smile, entertain and keep conversations going throughout the 2 hours.
And yes, food again. Lunch will be at Peach Blossoms Restaurant at Marina Mandarin Hotel.
I feel fat just thinking about the venue.
And oh yes, it will be my....hmmm....*counts* 5th time doing the lo-hei...
There will be a 6th time for sure. And a potential 7th or 8th lol.
*Looks down at tummy*
Go away you flabs!! I don't like you!!! Ugh!!
And yes, food again. Lunch will be at Peach Blossoms Restaurant at Marina Mandarin Hotel.
I feel fat just thinking about the venue.
And oh yes, it will be my....hmmm....*counts* 5th time doing the lo-hei...
There will be a 6th time for sure. And a potential 7th or 8th lol.
*Looks down at tummy*
Go away you flabs!! I don't like you!!! Ugh!!
Tuesday, February 08, 2011
Aunt Agony Emergeth Too
The start of the Rabbit Year seems to have brought me into a few "listening-ear" situations again.
Over the last few days, I unwittingly found myself providing listening ears on three separate occasions.
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1) A girlfriend, whom I was very close to last time, spent some time talking to me on Saturday night about her almost failing, if not failed, relationship with a guy who is a divorcee with two kids. 3 years spent being there for him and now she may be calling it quits.
Sigh, I guess it really is time to move on, however hard it may be, if you cannot see any future or direction in the relationship. Or if you think you and your partner are just cruising along with nowhere to head to in particular. Or if it turns out to be just a one-sided effort in attempting to grow the relationship further. I hope she finds what she truly deserves in this Rabbit Year....
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2) I received a call on Monday afternoon. From a friend whom I've not heard from for the last 10-12 months at least. We met up for coffee that same afternoon. He used to be my vendor when I was still working in the Marketing line. We've kept in touch over the last few years and are more like friends now. When we met up, he shared with me the reason for his "disappearing" for so long.
His business was doing very badly. Fledgling. He was "played out" by some clients and partners alike. And by September or October last year, he was quite cash-strapped. Although his wife was working (and still is), they also had two young kids below 5 to look after and his mum was also living with them. At times, he and his wife had to share a packet of chicken rice between themselves for dinner.
Still, he managed to get some references from friends and is currently holding onto 3 jobs now. He also shared with me that he did not know he had the strength and energy to keep on going. He'd work from 9am to 5pm, then go off for sales appointments for another job of his, go home and then try to settle admin matters needed for his sales job and hit the sack at 2am or so. On the weekends, especially in the evenings, he'd be helping to manage an Italian restaurant somewhere in the east side of Singapore.
Though his schedule seems to be jam-packed, I think he still makes the effort to be there for his children and family too....I hope things get brighter for him this year and may he find a suitable solution to better his financial situation.
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3) A long-time friend, whom I've known for close to 18 years, called me up just now. After the usual pleasantries, he shared with me that things weren't exactly rosy between himself and his wife. Arguments are getting more frequent, his wife seems to be suffering from depression, he's working on shift-work timing now in a new role, his wife's physical health isn't good too and medical bills amount to a few hundred each month...Things are taking a toll on their relationship
Still, he's keeping his head high and trying to work things out little by little...I wish him all the best and hope that things smoothen out eventually for them...
They've been together for about 15 years already and married for the last 3-4 years. I really hope they work things out...
Over the last few days, I unwittingly found myself providing listening ears on three separate occasions.
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1) A girlfriend, whom I was very close to last time, spent some time talking to me on Saturday night about her almost failing, if not failed, relationship with a guy who is a divorcee with two kids. 3 years spent being there for him and now she may be calling it quits.
Sigh, I guess it really is time to move on, however hard it may be, if you cannot see any future or direction in the relationship. Or if you think you and your partner are just cruising along with nowhere to head to in particular. Or if it turns out to be just a one-sided effort in attempting to grow the relationship further. I hope she finds what she truly deserves in this Rabbit Year....
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2) I received a call on Monday afternoon. From a friend whom I've not heard from for the last 10-12 months at least. We met up for coffee that same afternoon. He used to be my vendor when I was still working in the Marketing line. We've kept in touch over the last few years and are more like friends now. When we met up, he shared with me the reason for his "disappearing" for so long.
His business was doing very badly. Fledgling. He was "played out" by some clients and partners alike. And by September or October last year, he was quite cash-strapped. Although his wife was working (and still is), they also had two young kids below 5 to look after and his mum was also living with them. At times, he and his wife had to share a packet of chicken rice between themselves for dinner.
Still, he managed to get some references from friends and is currently holding onto 3 jobs now. He also shared with me that he did not know he had the strength and energy to keep on going. He'd work from 9am to 5pm, then go off for sales appointments for another job of his, go home and then try to settle admin matters needed for his sales job and hit the sack at 2am or so. On the weekends, especially in the evenings, he'd be helping to manage an Italian restaurant somewhere in the east side of Singapore.
Though his schedule seems to be jam-packed, I think he still makes the effort to be there for his children and family too....I hope things get brighter for him this year and may he find a suitable solution to better his financial situation.
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3) A long-time friend, whom I've known for close to 18 years, called me up just now. After the usual pleasantries, he shared with me that things weren't exactly rosy between himself and his wife. Arguments are getting more frequent, his wife seems to be suffering from depression, he's working on shift-work timing now in a new role, his wife's physical health isn't good too and medical bills amount to a few hundred each month...Things are taking a toll on their relationship
Still, he's keeping his head high and trying to work things out little by little...I wish him all the best and hope that things smoothen out eventually for them...
They've been together for about 15 years already and married for the last 3-4 years. I really hope they work things out...
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